{"version":"https://jsonfeed.org/version/1","title":"Pasadena Marriage Counseling","home_page_url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com","description":"Pasadena Marriage Counseling","author":{"name":"Pasadena Marriage Counseling"},"items":[{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/love-your-enemies-includes-your-spouse-sometimes","html_content":"

"I have decided to stick to love... Hate is too great a burden to bear," Martin Luther King, Jr.

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/love-your-enemies-includes-your-spouse-sometimes","title":"Love Your Enemies includes your Spouse in Times of Conflict","summary":"\"I have decided to stick to love... Hate is too great a burden to bear,\" Martin Luther King, Jr.","date_modified":"2026-01-20T21:19:02Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/the-risk-of-love-and-the-risk-to-not-love","html_content":"

Love can be both wonderful and dangerous, the source of highest ecstasy and deepest heartbreak. There is no escape from this reality. We can’t have one without preparing for the other. Writer and theologian C.S. Lewis wr...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/the-risk-of-love-and-the-risk-to-not-love","title":"The Risk of Love and the Risk to Not Love","summary":"Love can be both wonderful and dangerous, the source of highest ecstasy and deepest heartbreak. There is no escape from this reality. We can’t have one without preparing for the other. Writer and theologian C.S. Lewis wr...","date_modified":"2025-06-03T15:47:46Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/ai-girlfriends-and-more-lonely-young-men","html_content":"

A perfect new girlfriend is available for young men. And if perfect means she agrees with everything you ask, say or want, then here is the girlfriend that young men have only dreamed of. With 63% of young men single (...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/ai-girlfriends-and-more-lonely-young-men","title":"AI Girlfriends and More Lonely Young Men","summary":"A perfect new girlfriend is available for young men. And if perfect means she agrees with everything you ask, say or want, then here is the girlfriend that young men have only dreamed of. With 63% of young men single (...","date_modified":"2024-02-10T20:35:56Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/why-are-63%25-of-young-men-single","html_content":"

Half of all young men today have quit dating and benched themselves with women. The Pew Research Center (2023) has found that 63% of young men (18-29) are now single, and 50% of young men are not dating or even seeking ...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/why-are-63%25-of-young-men-single","title":"Why are 63% of Young Men Single?","summary":"Half of all young men today have quit dating and benched themselves with women. The Pew Research Center (2023) has found that 63% of young men (18-29) are now single, and 50% of young men are not dating or even seeking ...","date_modified":"2023-12-14T04:09:52Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/staying-attached-when-not-attached","html_content":"

Our reaction as babies to times of emotional disconnection can be devastating. The same can be true for disconnected spouses. We are social beings to our core. With more secure attachments in infancy, we can feel more...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/staying-attached-when-not-attached","title":"How to Reach Out when You Feel Disconnected to Your Spouse","summary":"Our reaction as babies to times of emotional disconnection can be devastating. The same can be true for disconnected spouses. We are social beings to our core. With more secure attachments in infancy, we can feel more...","date_modified":"2023-04-27T15:58:27Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/why-not-just-live-together-heres-why-not","html_content":"

Ann’s lease renewal was coming up on her apartment. Since she and Mark slept at each other’s places all the time, she decided to just move in with him to save money. And why not? It made perfect sense to both of them. Ma...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/why-not-just-live-together-heres-why-not","title":"Why Not Just Live Together? Here's Why Not","summary":"Ann’s lease renewal was coming up on her apartment. Since she and Mark slept at each other’s places all the time, she decided to just move in with him to save money. And why not? It made perfect sense to both of them. Ma...","date_modified":"2023-03-11T01:08:52Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/me-me-me-and-marriage-its-not-going-to-end-well","html_content":"

The Sesame Street character Beaker has a rather limited vocabulary. His only word is "Me." A lot of spouses are just like him--self-centered and self-absorbed. Their world also revolves around "Me." Even after their ...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/me-me-me-and-marriage-its-not-going-to-end-well","title":"\"Me, Me, Me\" and Marriage Never Ends Well","summary":"The Sesame Street character Beaker has a rather limited vocabulary. His only word is \"Me.\" A lot of spouses are just like him--self-centered and self-absorbed. Their world also revolves around \"Me.\" Even after their ...","date_modified":"2023-02-06T21:45:43Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/your-door-to-freedom-is-wide-open","html_content":"

Millions of people have been in jail since they were three years old. Or ten, or fifteen. It happens at any age. When anyone is neglected, abused, or grows up in a house that is unstable and unkind, the prison term star...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/your-door-to-freedom-is-wide-open","title":"Your Freedom is One Step Away","summary":"Millions of people have been in jail since they were three years old. Or ten, or fifteen. It happens at any age. When anyone is neglected, abused, or grows up in a house that is unstable and unkind, the prison term star...","date_modified":"2022-07-22T19:00:00Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/four-attachment-styles","html_content":"

Attachment theory has observed that our romantic and adult relationships resemble our earlier relationships in childhood. Secure connection with mother as a baby and child will tend to lead toward secure relationships i...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/four-attachment-styles","title":"Four Attachment Styles","summary":"Attachment theory has observed that our romantic and adult relationships resemble our earlier relationships in childhood. Secure connection with mother as a baby and child will tend to lead toward secure relationships i...","date_modified":"2022-07-04T23:29:05Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/secrets-for-a-michelin-star-marriage","html_content":"

The Netflix series Chef’s Table features the stories of the best chefs on earth. Each episode shows their evolution from humble beginnings to Michelin star fame and packed restaurants. The climax of each show features pl...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/secrets-for-a-michelin-star-marriage","title":"Recipe for a Michelin Star Marriage","summary":"The Netflix series Chef’s Table features the stories of the best chefs on earth. Each episode shows their evolution from humble beginnings to Michelin star fame and packed restaurants. The climax of each show features pl...","date_modified":"2022-02-26T01:00:00Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/men-enmeshed-with-mom","html_content":"

An ancient Scripture quoted at most weddings instructs the new husband to leave his father and mother before he can unite with his wife. Yet some moms will still cling to their sons anyway, dragging behind him while hol...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/men-enmeshed-with-mom","title":"Men Enmeshed with Mom","summary":"An ancient Scripture quoted at most weddings instructs the new husband to leave his father and mother before he can unite with his wife. Yet some moms will still cling to their sons anyway, dragging behind him while hol...","date_modified":"2021-08-31T17:30:19Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/a-marriage-vaccine-for-the-covid-19-1","html_content":"

Couples have more time together lately than they could ever have dreamed. For many that has been a dream come true. For others it’s more of a nightmare. As I wrote in my blog, Does Your Marriage have Pre-Existing Conditi...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/a-marriage-vaccine-for-the-covid-19-1","title":"A Marriage Vaccine for the COVID-19","summary":"Couples have more time together lately than they could ever have dreamed. For many that has been a dream come true. For others it’s more of a nightmare. As I wrote in my blog, Does Your Marriage have Pre-Existing Conditi...","date_modified":"2020-04-19T01:44:04Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/feel-like-youre-going-crazy-from-the-lockdown-thats-normal","html_content":"

Feeling frustrated, anxious and socially phobic lately? These are only a few of the emotional symptoms that are going around. I’ve heard so many clients, friends and family say they haven’t been their normal self since t...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/feel-like-youre-going-crazy-from-the-lockdown-thats-normal","title":"Feel like you're going crazy from the lock-down? That's normal","summary":"Feeling frustrated, anxious and socially phobic lately? These are only a few of the emotional symptoms that are going around. I’ve heard so many clients, friends and family say they haven’t been their normal self since t...","date_modified":"2020-04-19T01:26:48Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/podcast-interview-a-marriage-vaccine-for-the-covid-19","html_content":"

To strengthen your marriage during the pandemic and stay-at-home orders, listen to my interview on the podcast of financial adviser Jason Parker in the Seattle area.

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/podcast-interview-a-marriage-vaccine-for-the-covid-19","title":"Podcast Interview: A Marriage Vaccine for the COVID-19","summary":"To strengthen your marriage during the pandemic and stay-at-home orders, listen to my interview on the podcast of financial adviser Jason Parker in the Seattle area. ","date_modified":"2020-04-15T22:55:25Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/the-new-ptsd-pre-traumatic-stress-disorder-for-a-coming-pandemic","html_content":"

There is a new kind of Post-traumatic stress disorder going around. But this time, instead of the symptoms due to a past trauma, they are due to a future one. With the Covid-19 pandemic coming at us like a tsunami, a lot...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/the-new-ptsd-pre-traumatic-stress-disorder-for-a-coming-pandemic","title":"The New PTSD: Pre-Traumatic Stress Disorder for a Coming Pandemic","summary":"There is a new kind of Post-traumatic stress disorder going around. But this time, instead of the symptoms due to a past trauma, they are due to a future one. With the Covid-19 pandemic coming at us like a tsunami, a lot...","date_modified":"2020-03-25T23:23:46Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/the-secret-to-desire-in-a-long-term-relationship","html_content":"

How do you keep your desire alive and well for your beloved? Whether you have the passion of a newlywed or your desire is almost out, this talk by psychologist Esther Perel helps all couples learn important keys to keep...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/the-secret-to-desire-in-a-long-term-relationship","title":"The Secret to Desire in a Long Term Relationship","summary":"How do you keep your desire alive and well for your beloved? Whether you have the passion of a newlywed or your desire is almost out, this talk by psychologist Esther Perel helps all couples learn important keys to keep...","date_modified":"2020-01-15T20:00:00Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/how-to-survive-infidelity","html_content":"

Some marriages will end from infidelity. But the majority of marriages go on, and those marriages can not only survive but go on to thrive. Learn how from Esther Perel, a psychotherapist in New York City who wrote the...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/how-to-survive-infidelity","title":"How to Survive Infidelity","summary":"Some marriages will end from infidelity. But the majority of marriages go on, and those marriages can not only survive but go on to thrive. Learn how from Esther Perel, a psychotherapist in New York City who wrote the...","date_modified":"2019-02-19T00:13:53Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/what-deep-space-network-engineers-can-teach-every-couple","html_content":"

Good communication is critical to both space missions and marriage. Aerospace engineers can teach couples this lesson better than anyone on earth. I learned this at a goodbye party last week at Cal Tech. The Cassini spa...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/what-deep-space-network-engineers-can-teach-every-couple","title":"What Deep Space Network Engineers can Teach Every Marriage ","summary":"Good communication is critical to both space missions and marriage. Aerospace engineers can teach couples this lesson better than anyone on earth. I learned this at a goodbye party last week at Cal Tech. The Cassini spa...","date_modified":"2018-12-18T21:18:51Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/husband-of-the-year-awards","html_content":"

Before the wedding, guys will slay dragons and climb mountains to win their beloved’s hand in marriage.  After the wedding, men can slack.  As pictures are worth a thousand words, see how you compare with these guys. Hus...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/husband-of-the-year-awards","title":"Husband of the Year Awards","summary":"Before the wedding, guys will slay dragons and climb mountains to win their beloved’s hand in marriage.  After the wedding, men can slack.  As pictures are worth a thousand words, see how you compare with these guys. Hus...","date_modified":"2018-12-18T20:27:09Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/going-the-distance-to-twenty-five-years-and-beyond","html_content":"

My wife and I recently crossed the 25 year mark in our marriage, still as happy and close as ever. The occasion reminded me of how we felt when we crossed the finish line in our first half marathon—in a pouring down rain...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/going-the-distance-to-twenty-five-years-and-beyond","title":"Going the Distance to Twenty Five Years and Beyond","summary":"My wife and I recently crossed the 25 year mark in our marriage, still as happy and close as ever. The occasion reminded me of how we felt when we crossed the finish line in our first half marathon—in a pouring down rain...","date_modified":"2018-12-18T20:19:35Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/let-it-go-if-nelson-mandela-did-it-so-can-you","html_content":"

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/let-it-go-if-nelson-mandela-did-it-so-can-you","title":"Let it Go: If Nelson Mandela Did It, So Can You","summary":" ","date_modified":"2018-12-18T20:13:52Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/stop-the-silent-treatment","html_content":"

Stonewalling, silent treatment and avoidance create distance, stress and panic in a marriage. The couple’s bond is temporarily broken.  And if stonewalling becomes a pattern in a marriage, the damage can ultimately lead ...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/stop-the-silent-treatment","title":"Stop the Silent Treatment","summary":"Stonewalling, silent treatment and avoidance create distance, stress and panic in a marriage. The couple’s bond is temporarily broken.  And if stonewalling becomes a pattern in a marriage, the damage can ultimately lead ...","date_modified":"2018-12-18T01:17:45Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/is-your-dog-a-better-spouse-than-you","html_content":"

Your wife comes home from a long day at work. As usual, she’s excitedly greeted at the door and shown unrestrained affection.  All of a sudden she relaxes and feels glad to be home and glad to be alive.  No, its not her ...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/is-your-dog-a-better-spouse-than-you","title":"Is Your Dog a Better Spouse than You?","summary":"Your wife comes home from a long day at work. As usual, she’s excitedly greeted at the door and shown unrestrained affection.  All of a sudden she relaxes and feels glad to be home and glad to be alive.  No, its not her ...","date_modified":"2018-12-18T01:16:39Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/out-with-the-porn--keep-your-sex-life-real","html_content":"

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/out-with-the-porn--keep-your-sex-life-real","title":"Out with the Porn--Keep your Sex Life Real","summary":" ","date_modified":"2018-12-18T01:15:41Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/martial-arts-and-marriage","html_content":"

I’m not only learning the martial art of kenpo karate this year. I’m also learning some things about marriage. One lesson is the tremendous emphasis in martial arts on the virtue of respect.Before entering and exiting t...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/martial-arts-and-marriage","title":"Martial Arts and Marriage","summary":"I’m not only learning the martial art of kenpo karate this year. I’m also learning some things about marriage. One lesson is the tremendous emphasis in martial arts on the virtue of respect.Before entering and exiting t...","date_modified":"2018-12-13T00:06:51Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/marriage-in-the-groove","html_content":"

Marc Antoine and Brian Simpson in the Groove

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/marriage-in-the-groove","title":"Marriage in the Groove","summary":"Marc Antoine and Brian Simpson in the Groove","date_modified":"2018-12-07T23:55:01Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/stop-the-self-criticism-mao-is-dead","html_content":"

The new Red Era museum just opened in China with a vast collection of historical objects from the worst years in the country’s history.  The Great Leap Forward and The Cultural Revolution in the 1950’s to 1970’s were a l...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/stop-the-self-criticism-mao-is-dead","title":"Mao is Dead: Stop Your Self-Criticism","summary":"The new Red Era museum just opened in China with a vast collection of historical objects from the worst years in the country’s history.  The Great Leap Forward and The Cultural Revolution in the 1950’s to 1970’s were a l...","date_modified":"2018-12-06T20:53:00Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/fixing-a-broken-heart","html_content":"

Heartbreak happens to everyone at some time in their lives.  Recovery from a break-up can seem practically impossible.  Psychologist Guy Winch offers insights and tools to help make your recovery possible.  You may not b...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/fixing-a-broken-heart","title":"Fixing a Broken Heart","summary":"Heartbreak happens to everyone at some time in their lives.  Recovery from a break-up can seem practically impossible.  Psychologist Guy Winch offers insights and tools to help make your recovery possible.  You may not b...","date_modified":"2018-02-07T17:00:00Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/how-empathy-keeps-husbands-out-of-the-doghouse","html_content":"

I almost bought my wife a portable generator for her birthday yesterday.  I say almost because at the last minute in the store, against my great and logical reasons to buy it, I decided to buy her tickets to a show inste...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/how-empathy-keeps-husbands-out-of-the-doghouse","title":"How Empathy Keeps Husbands Out of the Doghouse","summary":"I almost bought my wife a portable generator for her birthday yesterday.  I say almost because at the last minute in the store, against my great and logical reasons to buy it, I decided to buy her tickets to a show inste...","date_modified":"2014-07-01T03:00:00Z"},{"id":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/olympic-marital-commitment","html_content":"

With 83 medals and counting, the US Olympic team has taken a solid lead in the 2012 London Summer Olympic games.  From swimming to track to gymnastics, our athletes have given their best in sport after sport.  Imagine if...

","url":"https://pasadenachristiancounseling.com/marriage-coach-blog/f/olympic-marital-commitment","title":"Olympic Marital Commitment ","summary":"With 83 medals and counting, the US Olympic team has taken a solid lead in the 2012 London Summer Olympic games.  From swimming to track to gymnastics, our athletes have given their best in sport after sport.  Imagine if...","date_modified":"2012-08-10T15:00:00Z"}]}